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Homeschooling a Shy Child

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In many circumstances, homeschooling a shy child may be the best approach to meet both educational and emotional needs. Socialization, of course, is important to the future ability of any child to get along in life. However, thrusting a shy child into a crowded public school setting can be counterproductive, an overwhelming experience that can reinforce social anxiety and make it much more difficult to overcome. Homeschooling can help shy children to become well-adjusted and confident in social settings by allowing them to develop social skills at a pace that suits their individual needs.

Benefits of Homeschooling a Shy Child

Socialization

Often, socialization is among the top concerns of parents who are considering homeschooling for their children, and a point frequently raised by opponents of homeschooling. However, the traditional classroom setting is not the only means of providing children with proper socialization, nor is it always the best environment in which to do so. Shy children can have a very difficult time in a public school setting, finding it impossible to fit in with their more outgoing peers. Children who are quiet, anxious, or awkward in social settings often find it hard to make friends in the traditional classroom setting, and wind up feeling isolated and insecure. Adding to these feelings is the fact that many of these children are picked on or bullied in school, as their shyness sets them apart from the others, making them targets of those who will harass anyone who is different.

Obviously, these issues are not likely to make it easy for these children to gain the confidence they need to overcome shyness. In fact, such experiences often compound the problem. For some children, the sink or swim approach to socialization is traumatic, causing lifelong self-esteem issues. Homeschooling can offer the opportunity for children with this personality trait to ease into socialization at their own pace, developing self-esteem and confidence before facing the often harsh judgments of immature and intolerant peers.

Academic Success

Stress certainly does not contribute to an effective learning environment; instead, stress causes a variety of issues that make learning difficult. A child who is anxious about the social aspects of the school day may well be uncomfortable and distracted in the traditional classroom setting, unable to concentrate on academics. Shy children are less likely to participate in classroom activities or ask questions when they need help with schoolwork, hesitant to draw attention to themselves. Teachers who have a large class to handle may be too busy to devote a great deal of time to drawing out shy students, no matter how good their intentions. Homeschooling can avoid these issues by offering children the opportunity to be educated in the most comfortable and supportive environment, far from the stress and anxiety that can be an obstacle to learning in the typical crowded classroom.

Homeschooling Success With a Shy Child

Homeschooling a shy child can be quite a challenge. Children who tend towards shyness and anxiety in social situations will need encouragement to overcome these difficulties, but placing them under too much pressure can do more harm than good. Striking the right balance will depend on the personality of your child. For the child who is uncomfortable in large crowds, yet does well interacting one-on-one with other children, play dates that gradually increase from one child to several over a period of months can be a good way to work towards confidence in group situations.

Group classes or activities, such as music classes, scouts, art classes, or hobby clubs, can be a great way for your shy child to find friends with similar interests, making it easier to feel accepted in a group situation. Starting such a group in your own home can be a good way to draw out your shy child, as all of us are more comfortable on home turf. A group activity that is geared towards areas in which your child is particularly talented can be a great confidence builder, as can tutoring younger homeschoolers.

As your child becomes secure and confident in these situations, new challenges should become easier to adjust to as his or her comfort zone is gradually stretched to include more diverse social experiences. However, it is important to remember that no two children are alike, and each should be allowed to progress at a pace that suits his personality. Not every child is destined to be a social butterfly, but given time and patience, most will develop the confidence and emotional maturity required for success in most social situations.

Homeschooling a Shy Child